I’ve been thinking about all the
gaps in my journey that I haven’t written about, and there’s one in particular that
keeps coming to mind…
How did I come to be diagnosed with
cancer?
I thought there might be some merit
in sharing this particular aspect of my situation with others, so I’m beginning
this tale at a point where I was somewhat embarrassed and hesitant, and
concerned that I was wasting everyone’s time, trying to explain away a numbness
and a very minor ache in my face. Just so we’re clear, this story covers a four
month timeline, from early October 2018 until early February 2019.
Like most other males I know, I hate shaving. Don’t really know why. I
think over the years maybe I’ve just talked myself into not liking it, so I
only do it every three or four days. I’ve got a full beard – I’ve had it since
I worked in New Guinea in the ‘70s – but I still have to shave around the cheeks
and neck area. It’s kinda the only time I stare at myself in the mirror and lately
I’ve been noticing my right lower eyelid drooping more and more. It’s also
drying out and giving me a bit of grief. I’ve also noticed that the razor feels
strange against my right cheek. You know when you’ve been to the dentist and
had novocaine - it’s wearing off you feel a numbness in your lips and the surrounding
area. That’s what it feels like.
The eyelid drooping started after I
had a BCC removed from the eyelid in 2014. I can still remember the surgeon at
the time commenting on it and telling me he wouldn’t do anything about it
‘cause he didn’t think it would be a problem. He was right – for a couple of
years. But I kept telling myself: it’s not going to get any better. Time to do
something about it. So, after about six months of telling myself to sort it
out, off I go to my GP.
When he checks me over, he decides
it’s worth a referral. But, because it just needs a bit of tightening, he
doesn’t think the Medical Team at the DHB will give it a very high priority. He
tells me I might be waiting awhile. I’m not too bothered about that and I
wander off back into my everyday life.
About a week later I get a letter
from the hospital, telling me they’ve assessed my situation and have classified
my procedure as Class 4 (non-urgent) and I will be scheduled for corrective
surgery within the next three months.
Cool…
Feeling
relaxed.
What the…??? About two weeks after
the letter the Booking Clerk at the hospital’s chasing me, telling me he has an
appointment date and time for me to see an Eye Specialist.
(No complaints about the Public Health Service from this little
chipmunk.).
A few days later and I’m sitting in
front of the Specialist waffling on about my eyelid issues, then I started
whingeing about pain under my eye. The Specialist wasn’t happy about all the
noise I was making so she suggested she take a couple of biopsies from around
my eye while she’s sorting out the eyelid. Yep, says I. Sounds like a plan.
Skipping right along… less than two
weeks after the appointment and I’m booked in for a Day Surgery procedure that
fixed me right up. Two weeks after that and I’m back in the Eye Surgeon’s Clinic
for a follow-up. The Specialist looks over her handiwork; she congratulates me
on my superhuman healing properties; I congratulate her on her needlepoint, and
then we start to talk about the biopsies.
All clear; No problems; Everything’s
fine, and she tells me in a few other distracted ways that the biopsies have
come out clean. But she’s frowning at me. She’s not happy. She tells me she
thinks something’s going on and wants to refer me back to the Maxiofacial
Surgeon that did some rust removal and panel beating on my nose back in 2013.
Wonderful, we thought. He’ll sort me out. A few weeks later and I’ve had an MRI
and a CT scan, all arranged by Dr G and his remarkably talented sidekick, “Ann
the Clinic Nurse”.
Now, here’s where things get a bit
tricky. I want to tell you how things went a bit pear shaped but I don’t want
to appear to be a prat, or ungrateful, or an arse. At the end of the day, I
think we can just attribute the next little interlude to a clash of
personalities.
I had one and she didn’t.
Instead of being referred back to
Dr. G, I was referred to Dr. B (a locum). From the first meeting with her
Denise and I weren’t happy – to such a degree that the wonderful, amazing “Ann
the clinic nurse” picked up on it and tried to smooth the waters and got
smacked down (in front of us) for her trouble. Anyway, Dr B fumbled her way
through the consult during which time it became very clear that she had no knowledge
of the pathway I had followed to date, no clue as to which tests I’d had and
hadn’t really looked at any scans, nor read any recommendations.
She started off by giving us a very
condescending smile and then telling us my eye was fine and the biopsies didn’t
show any problems. (Talk about deja vu!!)
She then went on to show us a CT scan and pointed out a growth under my right
eye. We were told of a plan where the removal would be done through my mouth –
a concept I still can’t comprehend. We asked a few questions and received vague
and confusing replies, but by then we’d pretty much lost interest in continuing
the conversation.
Now, I’m not entirely sure how
things progressed from then on. All I know is that we came away with the
impression that the growth would be a “schwannomas” tumor – which are almost
always benign but, would still have to be removed – through my mouth.
Anyway, a week or so later and again
I’m on the phone to my new best friend, the Booking Clerk at the Hospital. He
tells me I have another appointment, this time with Dr G. Well… that put a
spring in my step and when I told Denise she immediately got her Mojo back. So,
the next week finds us fronting up to Dr G.
After the conventional meet and
greet he explains to us that he wants to do a biopsy. He goes on to say the
reason is that he doesn’t agree with the diagnosis. He thinks it’s Squamous
Cell Carcinoma - the same thing I had in 2013. A biopsy will give us a
definitive answer and we can then plan the way forward. I think we surprised
him a little then, with our quick agreement and nods and smiles all round.
Wednesday 9th. January –
I’m dressed and waiting in the ward after a relaxing overnight stay.
Dr G wants to see me before I go, so
off we go to Villa 3. We have a chat so he can explain the way forward,
presuming it’s SCC. This includes a trip to Auckland to meet with the
Multi-Disciplinary Team, most likely followed by surgery and radiotherapy in
Auckland.
“Ann the Clinic Nurse” is already
five steps ahead and tells us her part of the plan. She’s going to arrange
another full CT scan for the MDT, accommodation for Denise and I in Auckland and
a fistful of fuel vouchers for the road trip. She then tells us she’s not going
to “pull the trigger” until they get the biopsy results, but she’ll ring us as
soon as she has them. Sounds good.
Two days later – Thursday - and
Denise and I are at home when I receive an email from “Manage My Health”. This
is the Patient Portal that connects me with my GP. The email tells me I have
new records from Manage My Health, so I login to have a look. It’s the biopsy
results. It’s confirmed. The lump is Squamous Cell Carcinoma.
So, there it is.
Since the diagnosis I’ve been asking myself: “What are you going to take away from all
this?”
In the middle of lots of good things
happening, there was one sour note. I guess I could focus on that and think
about my path if we had progressed with Dr B. I imagine it would have resulted
in having the lump removed while everyone assumed it was benign. Most likely
finding out it’s malignant after the surgery and possible then needing another
surgery to dig out any bits left behind. Who knows? But whatever… that’s negative
thinking so it stops right here.
Now, I’ve also thought thought about this
question a lot...
What was the difference between the two
surgeons that made me feel uncomfortable with one and not the other?
I’m pretty sure it was the
difference between a “question and answer session” and a “conversation”. With
Dr B I thought the information offered, whether instigated by her or as a
result of questions, was superficial and generic. With Dr G, it was a
conversation – a real back-and-forth - where his credibility and knowledge was
on display for all to see.
So, I think I learned two things
from this…
If you’re not satisfied with the
information you’re getting, don’t settle.
And…
If you understand the message, no
matter how life-altering you think it might be, try to find the positive, and
when you do, hold on to it… tightly.
Remember... no act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted.
What an ordeal. Can identify. You write such a compelling story but I wish you didn't have to go through this.
ReplyDeleteThanks Maureen.
DeleteI can relate to your ordeal. Misdiagnosis for a year myself. Thank you for sharing this. These are the accounts that should be common knowledge, yet many ears don't hear them. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteHow did you get past the mis-diagnosis?
DeleteThanks again for such an insightful post. I continue to be amazed at the “good fortune” I’ve had to land where I did for my cancer diagnosis & surgeries. So many so not. Take care.. thinking of you & Denise
ReplyDelete"I had one and she didn't"
ReplyDeleteHa!! I laughed so suddenky I nearly woke your granddaughter! Thank god for Dr. G!